(On a side note, I confess that living the life I had imagined never involved so much stinkin’ laundry. Nor a couple hours of cooking something barely edible. Nor cleaning up after a child who can effectively avalanche my plastic containers, pull a chair down on top of himself, and rub blueberry jelly into the carpet while I try to use the bathroom. )
But I diverge. Living the life I imagined also never involved so much laughter and so much content.
Anyway, now that I’ve stirred up the dreams, I’ve got some goals to identify, some work to do. I’ve got to put grit on vague notions. I’ve got to make conscious decisions every day so that I’m walking towards these dreams, living the life that God has written on my soul.
Some of this planning is a coming to grips. Like realizing that things aren’t as they should be, that I am weak, and I am more than prone to leaving the path that God has set before me. The planning also hinges on the counsel of wise sages that I trust. And the companionship of good friends to push me higher or sometimes just bring me down a few notches. I need talks and tears and climbing walls and coffee shops. I need grace.
The following list is an incomplete slew of random conscious decisions that I am implementing. I’ve got to change some stuff round these parts. These choices are absurd and petty (and like, she struggles with that?) but I’ve got to write these somewhere and here’s as good of a place as any. It’s my way of tugging some dreams down into tangible pieces. Once these conscious decisions become habitual, I can focus on other stuff. Cause God knows, I got lots:).
1. Limit TV. I usually keep the Today’s Show on in the morning, along with Sesame Street and Mr. Rogers. Though the programs aren’t bad in and of themselves, I’ve found that there is considerably more communication, creativity, spontaneity, and fun without the drone of the TV even on. Plus, I don’t want the kids (or me) soaking up the advertisements.
2. Computer off at night. When the kids go to bed, I find myself relaxing by checking into a million things online. Most of it is unnecessary and steals away time with Paul. That’s pretty lame, cause Paul jams and I’m sorry that I’m missing out on us together.
3. Zero use of credit card. We are climbing out of debt right now and have put a complete stop on the plastic. The little rewards they offer are so alluring. Ours was a US Airways credit card that earned us free tickets every now and again. The problem is that we couldn’t control our impulse buying and we didn’t live within our means. The bills that used to be paid in full started to soar. And we’ve realized that there is no freedom in debt when we are called to be free.
5. Going to bed by 11:00. Right now I’m pushing 12 or 1 most nights and that sleep never gets made up. (Plus 7 hours is a gamble at night with Adden up indiscriminately!) I’m a better mom when I’m healthy and rested and fun.
6. Waking up before the kids. For years, I woke up at 4 to hang with God, exercise, and do housework. Since kids have come onto the scene, I can’t get up before 8. They wake up running and I wake up dragging. The first thing they see is a groggy, “I can’t believe you’re up so early” disaster. It’s so not a good thing.
7. Living a love for the word of God in front of our kids. I’ve always spent time with God while kids were napping since I need my solitude. While that’s all well and good, I also want them to know how much I value the word of God. And they won’t know that unless they see it. (Something I’ve heard reiterated at MOPS.) Inevitably, Selah will sit next to me and “translate” the Bible for herself (“God says ride in Daddy’s car.”) And Adden will destroy the house until he slams his hand in a drawer. Then he’ll sit crying in my lap:) But, anything is worth a try…
Well, these are the conscious decisions I’ll be working on for the next 6 weeks. Is that how long it takes to make stuff a habit? I have no idea, but if you aren’t hearing from me for a while, you’ll know why.
Got any conscious decisions you’re hammering out?